Why I Travel Solo — Sunbird Soul Adventures

“You’re going where by yourself?”

“That must be so lonely.”

“Why on Earth would you travel solo?”

Long story short, because I love it.

In the summer of 2019, three days after I graduated university, I loaded up my Kia Soul and hit the road for three months straight, living out of the back of the car, and driving to all 48 connecting United States. (More on this in “My Journey.”)

But, it didn’t start there. This wasn’t a spontaneous decision, although a lot of the decisions I made while on the road were. This trip was brewing for a long time, and the thing that sparked it the most was my Horrible Year of 2018. But of course, one bad year isn’t the reason I travel solo, it’s just a big part of why I hit the road at all. Traveling solo to me is an empowering experience, and a liberating one. As a solo female traveler, the road is a strange place to reside, but it feels like home now, and I don’t know if I would feel that way if I’d never made the decision to go it alone.

I got tons of questions when I was on the road. One conversation I remember vividly happened at a private campground in Indiana that I ended up at because the National Park didn’t have a spot for me. The owner of the campground had talked to his wife who’d checked me in, and came up to me while I was making dinner, asking “You’re going all the way to Mammoth Cave by yourself? That doesn’t seem very safe.” By this time, I’d been on the road for two months and very much knew what I was doing. The solo thing didn’t feel strange to me, but it dawned on me that it was probably very strange to other people.

There are a ton of reasons I travel solo, and if you ask any solo female traveler their reasons, they might have some of the same ones as me, and some completely different ones, but the fact is, solo travel is an experience that’s unique to the person doing it.

First and foremost, solo travel is incredibly liberating. Have you ever been on a trip with someone and spent the entire time worrying about whether or not the other person is having a good time? Maybe you spend the whole trip just doing things they want to do so that you can sidestep any guilt you might have if you pick a spot and they hate it? Yeah, me too.

Traveling with friends can be great, truly it can. But for the long stretches of time that I like to go for, it’s an incredibly liberating feeling to be able to make all your decisions for yourself without another person to worry about.

When you don’t have another person with you, you’re able to learn more: about yourself, about life, about the world. I had to do things on the road I never would’ve experienced had I not been alone. I had to troubleshoot and make decisions on my own and listen to my gut more than I ever would’ve with a partner, and for that, I’m super grateful.

Solo travel allowed me to figure out parts of myself I think I was missing after that Horrible 2018 and allowed me to fall in love with this nomadic lifestyle. Being kinetic is something that felt so right to me, as if to say “no wonder you felt so stuck when you were in school! You’re meant to be moving!” And I never would’ve found that little bit of my soul—my wandering soul—had I not been alone.

Hoh Rainforest, Olympic National Park, WA

Now, you’re probably wondering: what possibly could’ve happened in 2018 that prompted her to take off around the country by herself for 3 months with an insane goal? Plenty. Plenty happened.

2018 started with my dog passing away unexpectedly. A few months later, the last summer break I’d ever have started off with a breakup with someone I never should’ve been in a relationship with in the first place, and then a few months after that, I started one of the most physically and emotionally demanding jobs I’ve ever worked. And a slew of other things.

If you’ve read My Journey, then you’ll know that the trip that started it all had been in the back of my head for about 5 years before I actually left on it. And it was at the beginning of that summer of 2018 that I decided I was going to do it alone, and in a year, instead of waiting any longer.

And when I did finally do it, I experienced some of the most beautiful places of my life. From the hot Valley of Fire State Park in Nevada, to the swamps of Congaree National Park in South Carolina, to the icy cold of Glacier National Park in Montana, I’ve gotten to see some of the most unreal landscapes in the country, and all because I made a decision for myself to prioritize my own happiness.

Just the prospect of traveling alone was an act of stepping out of my comfort zone, and that in itself was one of the most empowering decisions I ever made.

Traveling alone can be scary. It can be stressful. It can be lonely. But despite what plenty of people told me before I left, I never once felt unsafe, and the reason for that is that I listened to my gut about everything I did. If you trust yourself, solo travel can be a freeing experience, rather than one of mystery and the danger everyone projected onto me prior to leaving. Solo travel is scary in the way that any new experience is, making you so aware and present of everything happening around you, in the best way.

So, if you haven’t traveled alone, or haven’t even thought of traveling alone, this is for you: make that first move. Hit the road, book the flight, choose your first destination. The world is waiting to show you what you’ve had hiding inside you all along.